A Mile a Minute: The World of Mrs. Saditty

Lost Innocence

Seeing this on the news bothered me so. Kids removed from a polygamist compound. Prior to this, I was pretty neutral about polygamy (probably because I avoided research). From where I stood, if a grown woman did not mind sharing a husband with a few other chicks, then that was on her. Then I saw the news reports. Fourteen.and.fifteen.year.old.girls.having.babies.and.

being.forced.to.marry.old.grown.azzed.nasty.smelly.old.men. Yuk. A sin and a shame. Babies at 14, lost innocence way earlier. I feel that there is a special place in hell for child molesters and these men (and the older women who enable them) are no exception. What kind of religion *cult* can convince a mommy to hand her daughter *baby* over to a nasty azzed old man who has already defiled scores of other women AND children. Being a follower is one thing but at what point does someone stand up and say "uh-uh" and do the right thing?

So now we have 15, 16, and 17 year old moms. It's seems that they have been reprogrammed against formal education and had surrendered to being baby machines.:::::sigh::::: Smaller kids never seeing crayons and not knowing how to act like regular children. A mess. People dancing on the fine line between religion and cult and tipping over to the cult side. What is next for these women and children. Do they ever get to live a *normal* life?

I know many women who were molested as children and two of them were brave enough to tell their stories: they were molested by Church members, sometimes in the Sunday school setting inside the walls of the church. These two women that I love so deeply now struggle with God and all types of organized religion because they feel that the religion allowed their lives to be ruined. It has taken years of therapy. One is on her way to returning to God and the other is still scorchingly angry. And they both got help. Both stated that they made adults aware of what was going on but were deemed as liars. ::::Sigh:::::: What kind of religious zealots would believe some church folks over their own child?

Mr Saditty and I have walked out of SEVERAL churches, never to return once the Pastor started talking crazy, never to return. More people need to practice that. My question is this: How far would we go to belong to something? At what point do we stop standing up for ourselves and our children? How often can we turn our heads the other way in order to remain among "the saved"? Where do we draw the line between religions and cults?

Religion Revisited

:::::::Very long, very drawn out sigh::::::

Okay, I really did not want to go here but I've been pushed for the past two years and 'Rev. Wright' has really brought my feelings to a head. OK, lets see...where shall I start?

Religion is a very difficult topic for me. I am a Christian (I believe in Jesus Christ and his teachings) but organized religion frustrates me. I had a very strict Roman Catholic upbringing and took what I needed from the Catholic doctrine and moved on. Now, my husband was born and raised Baptist, my three babies were Baptized into the Catholic faith, and my two step-children had been to church a total of 3 times before they came to live with us. We decided that as a family, we needed to consolidate things and find a "home church". With me so far? Great. We embarked on a journey which would take us to 20+ churches, searching for one that made everyone comfortable.

The first church we attended as a blended family was dynamic. The music, the preaching....everything was in line. We were generous with our offering and felt like maybe this could be the place. After our third Sunday, the pastor gave a sidebar to his sermon. He stated that annoiting was a gift and his church was being robbed of that gift. Huh bruh? He stated that there were people who came to church every Sunday and enjoyed standing under the annointed umbrella but refused to join the church (Spiritually and Financially, he added). He then stated that those persons stealing his annointing needed to either join church or not return. Needless to say, the Sadittys and their offerings never returned. I would never join a church after three visits. The church secretary gave us a call a few weeks later (she got the home number from one of our checks) and asked us why we (and our offering, I presume) had been absent. I minced no words telling her. She then asked me to hold and connected me to the Pastor ::::insert harp music here:::: I thanked him for the "annointing that he 'gave' us, told him how he alienated us, and bid him good day.  Of course he called back but I let him speak to oicemail (which has never been checked since we moved to 2146).

Over the next few months, we visited all types of churches and found no satisfaction. One church seemed to be dynamic but when the Pastor began speaking out about Jews and their faith (or lack of, she said) my husband stood up, picked up baby Saditty, and told the rest of us "Le's break out of here."Which brings me to my next subject: Preaching HATE.

Now, every holy roller that I have ever encountered is quick to tell me that as a Catholic, I have not seen the light. They speak to me about priests molesting little kids (huh? Father Frank never touched me or my brothers but okie) and leading parishoners to hell. Now, this may be true in some churches BUT I HAVE NEVER sat in a Catholic church and heard a priest (and I've been thru many) speak out against ANY form of religion. N.E.V.E.R. The Catholic church taught me to respect other people's religion whether I agreed with it or not. We were also taught the very best lesson in the bible: Do not judge, lest you be judged. This brings me to another point in hate being preached. One of my bff called me with excitement in her oice stating that during a revival, the pastor of her very large Atlanta church called out all of the "sissies, faggots, and bulldaggers". I was floored. I asked her how she felt about that. She told me that "they" needed to be called out and embarrassed in order to leave a life of sin. I.was.floored. First of all, I believe that we are ALL sinners (yes, sinful thoughts make us sinners) and that we are striving for perfection but the last truly perfect man died on a cross. I just HAD to tell her that I thought this hate filled garbage was some of the worst stuff she has ever told me. Suppose you were a person struggling with your sexuality and decided to go to church to seek peace and pray about things...AND YOU HEARD THE PREACHER SAY WORDS LIKE FAGGOT, SISSIES, AND BULLDAGGERS!!! Wow, depression or suicide, anyone? The wrong words, spoken to the wrong person, at the wrong time can result in some really serious things. I just don't understand HOW a church filled with Christians can sit in a church and listen to their leader spew hate.::::Insert Rev. Wright's sermons here:::::

To make a long story short, the family and I were unsuccessful in our search for a home church. Too many people preaching hate, mixing lightness and darkness, and DEMANDING huge sums of money every month (I shall discuss tithing and my thoughts on it at another time). We have, however, begun going to Mass at this really nice Catholic Church up the street. It is a mixed congregation (plenty of Black, White, Asians, and Hispanics), the priest gladly accepts ALL people and their offerings (no matter how meager or generous) and positive things that are conducive to a better quality of human life are discussed. I kinda miss some of the fire and brimstone sermons but I can live without all the other drama. :::::Stepping off my soapbox and dropping my mic::::::